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[consortofalderaan]

I think I recall people posting about receiving items from their memories.

Has anyone received something dangerous?

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[consortofalderaan]

As long as Bail could tell that Ben was trying, he was okay with the effort Ben made. He knew Ben was a good person, at heart and in his actions. One misfired conversation was not a blight on his opinion of the man. Bail still wanted to... to do this, what they were doing right now, actually. Among other things, but this was really nice.

"It would be less rewarding. I would need to find something more rewarding, like your profession. Maybe you need to teach me how to perform on ice."

[neverjedi]

"We still haven't gone skating together," he realizes, but that's followed quickly by a slight headshake - no loss of his smile, though: "I don't think they're the same kind of rewarding." He loves what he does, but it's not... profound.

[consortofalderaan]

“It doesn’t need to be the same,” Bail said, mentally marking another tick in the column of Ben devaluing himself. Bail wasn’t here to change Ben, but maybe someday he could convince him to see how wonderful Bail saw him.

“And I would very much like to go skating with you.”

[neverjedi]

"Then let's plan it. Since we're so deep into summer Aviator's probably our best bet, but that just means we can use the good sound system. Do you need skates or do you have your own?" He was happy about this plan. He wanted to skate with Bail, a lot. Sharing what he loved with people he cared about was a... big thing for him.

[consortofalderaan]

"You're asking me, a born and bred New Yorker, if I don't have my own pair of skates and need them?" Bail asked, feigning slight outrage.

[neverjedi]

He gives Bail a flat, but amused, look. "We rent a lot of skates to people who are born and bred in New York."

[consortofalderaan]

"Alright," Bail said. "That is fair- I have my own pair of skates. Just name the time, and I will show up and skate with you. Just don't expect anything fancy from me."

[neverjedi]

"Do you want to learn something fancy or just to go fast with me?" Either of those is fine. He just really, really, wants to share his love of skating with someone he cares a lot about.

[consortofalderaan]

"Let's start with going fast," Bail said, bring a hand up to Ben's neck and leaned over for kiss.

"I'm learning a lot from you. I need to think of something to teach you."

[neverjedi]

He returns the kiss, softly and easily and then laughed. "I don't think learning from me means you have to teach me, but I'm learning things too. It's just the nature of relationships, right?"

[consortofalderaan]

Bail wanted to deepen that kiss the moment Ben's mouth touched his, but he restrained himself. As much as he enjoyed their physical relationship, he was just as interested in these moments. Even if he could easily be swept away in the physical.

"Speaking of learning, I think I'm ready to start learning all the things you like about BDSM."

[neverjedi]

He went a little 'deer in the headlights' startled between the loss of the kiss and the question.

Not that he minded, just - not prepared.

"...Can you be more specific?"

[consortofalderaan]

Okay, it seemed to flow naturally for Bail, but ya, from another angle that might have been sudden.

"There is only so much I can learn from reading- ethics, morals, how to establish boundaries. But the physical aspects need hands on learning. You liked to be tied up, I need to learn how to tie you up. How to use the equipment, your levels of comfort. If you like pain, I need to learn how you like it applied. And we should talk about boundries again."

[neverjedi]

"Okay. Do you want to start with the boundaries talk again, because at least the bondage stuff is pretty straight forward. The rest is going to be a steeper learning curve." If Bail wanted to do this, still, but Ben? Assumed that it wouldn't be coming up again, unprompted by him, if Bail wasn't seriously interested.

[consortofalderaan]

"We can start there, again." And yes, Bail was still very much interested.

"You said you don't like breath-play, and you hate being sticky. I'm not interested in the former, and I will do everything in my power to avoid the latter. What else are hard no's for you?"

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[neverjedi]

"Sticky with blood and come in the short term don't bother me, just mean I'll need a shower. I absolutely cannot stand stuff like food or paint being left on me. Marks that can't be covered by long sleeves and long pants. I like pain - I don't like scenarios that set me up to fail so that pain can be construed as punishment. I absolutely cannot handle humiliation. Gags I'm willing to entertain later, but not this early."

Well, Bail had asked. "What are yours, as of now, understanding they may change?"

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[consortofalderaan]

Bail had asked, and while that was a list, he wasn’t overwhelmed. He decided to take it one piece at a time.

“I’m not interested in humiliating you.” That was a boundary he could respect without trying. “I know I’m not interested in edge-play. I will always want a safe word and limits.”

“You mentioned blood, can you elaborate more on that- do you want to be cut, whipped?”

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[neverjedi]

He starts to just answer the question as asked, and then realized there is an easier way. So he pulls out his phone and pulls up a spreadsheet and passes the phone to Bail.

"This is probably a better starting point."

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[consortofalderaan]

After Ben’s spreadsheet show and tell for meditation practices, Bail should have expected another spreadsheet. It still takes him be surprise, and he can’t help smiling at Ben and his drive for color coded organizational systems.

He started scrolling through the list.

“How about I comment when I don’t agree or don’t understand something? Or do you want my verbal response for everything?”

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[neverjedi]

He returned the smile, this time a little amused and indulgent himself. "How about you comment on things you don't understand, or are interested in." Otherwise they'd be here for... a while, for stuff he was more than willing to leave off the table.

Which in truth was everything, at least as long as basics were on it, and they clearly were.

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[consortofalderaan]

Bail was fine with that. He returned to scrolling.

In actuality, he went through the first column of acts quick- nothing he objected to, nor was particularly interested in in this particular relationship that Ben wasn’t also interested in, too.

“What is your definition between light bondage and heavy bondage? You also left the receiving column blank for heavy bondage- is that something you don’t want?”

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[neverjedi]

He had to lean over to look at the list, and then with a couple of movements reaching over Bail he turned that bubble yellow. "Missed one," he explained, and smiled. "In truth it's just weight of the equipment and amount of it. It's okay, if it works, but I'm not usually prone to challenging what's holding me too hard, anyway, so it's a little bit irrelevant."

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[consortofalderaan]

Bail nodded. "I am comfortable with that." And he read a bit more. "How do you define 'sleep play'?"

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[neverjedi]

"Prearranged waking me up with sex, or just sleepy sex on both our parts." that one's not complicated, at least.

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[consortofalderaan]

Bail snorted. "You've slept with me enough by now to know how much of a heavy sleeper I am. But... prearranged waking you up with sex, I could do that."