If its anything like my family she will be bossy but generally mean well... You think you were older or that she was?

[ In his opinion it made a difference in the sort of relationship they would have had but being the youngest in his family and generally looked after might have given him a certain point of view on that. ]

That's very open-minded of you. If you do end up with a ghostly tea time maybe the folks can tell you more about all this. They would know as they must have lived through it. Well... up until the point where they became ghosts.